tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30396930.post2219533516088128640..comments2023-10-21T07:58:50.161-08:00Comments on Maya's Granny: The Femine MistakeMaya's Grannyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12183715043200608144noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30396930.post-17959367087424581582007-05-04T15:21:00.000-08:002007-05-04T15:21:00.000-08:00I have a credit card that I have had since before ...I have a credit card that I have had since before I even started dating my husband. Every once in a while he asks why I still have it, and I suppose the easy answer is to make it easier to shop for him for Christmas and Birthdays. But his own Mother and Grandmother smacked him down with the real reason: they remember when his uncle divorced, and his aunt was left with no bank account and no credit history. Granted that banking laws are not as patriarchal as they used to be, but it's nice to know that I have a financial identity outside of his. I hope to be a spry but elderly woman before it becomes a critical matter. <BR/><BR/>I wish more young women would spend just 5 minutes thinking about what they would do if the love of their life were to leave or get hit by a bus. It won't take much longer than that to figure out the important things, and I find that disasters you prepare for rarely happen. Knock on wood, of course ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30396930.post-47939243599009994172007-05-04T07:37:00.000-08:002007-05-04T07:37:00.000-08:00J, I would have a world where every child gets to ...J, I would have a world where every child gets to be at home with Mom or Dad, and I know that when people drop out of the work world they come back several steps behind where they were before -- which is hugely unfair. I don't think Bennetts wants it this way, she is just very realistic.<BR/><BR/>It is one Penelope Trunk who has written the review Pseu is referring to on her blog.Maya's Grannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12183715043200608144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30396930.post-79467972220588302692007-05-04T06:22:00.000-08:002007-05-04T06:22:00.000-08:00Your mother's situation and the way she handled it...Your mother's situation and the way she handled it made you stronger....a person with a deep resolve never to let it happen to you or your children. It's amazing the lessons we learn from our families/parents...even if they don't know it. Your kids benefited beyond words because of the person you became J. The nice thing is....they know it.Joy Des Jardinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04893445642606862131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30396930.post-12478597857568369802007-05-04T05:40:00.000-08:002007-05-04T05:40:00.000-08:00I clearly agree that women should not let themselv...I clearly agree that women should not let themselves be helpless, having never been willing to put myself or my child in that position either...but I think the idea that women should never be willing to take the chance of staying home with their children, that daycare is the only way to go, is wrong as well. What I think is a better answer, in a perfect world where we all get to choose how things will be, is to get an education, work at least for a little while, before having children. That way, if you DO divorce or find yourself widowed, you have something to fall back upon.<BR/><BR/>I haven't read the book, but I've heard that she doesn't think it's safe for women to stay home at all. That, I think, is her mistake.<BR/><BR/>How odd...I have never heard that she is fat...just arguments about her book. I guess I haven't read enough about it. The idea that she should be dismissed because of it is beyond ridiculous.Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00653383372182667361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30396930.post-48049854067744287342007-05-04T04:57:00.000-08:002007-05-04T04:57:00.000-08:00All so true... As well as being independent, I als...All so true... As well as being independent, I also work hard to raise an independent daughter--even though I have a wonderful husband and she a wonderful father. As you say, there are no guarantees on how long any of us get to live. <BR/><BR/>This post helps to further explain your passion for the work you've done with women.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com