tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30396930.post3252530935705035562..comments2023-10-21T07:58:50.161-08:00Comments on Maya's Granny: Richard Picks Up His ToysMaya's Grannyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12183715043200608144noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30396930.post-12347042954078672772007-08-25T23:08:00.000-08:002007-08-25T23:08:00.000-08:00Bridget,That is related. How to Talk so Kids . . ....Bridget,<BR/>That is related. How to Talk so Kids . . . was written by two students of Haim Ginott, the author or "Between Parent and Child". When I taught parenting, the Dreikurs book and How to Talk were the two books I gave my students.<BR/><BR/>It is very important to let children know that you value what they think even when they can't have what they want.Maya's Grannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12183715043200608144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30396930.post-773343232752559672007-08-25T20:44:00.000-08:002007-08-25T20:44:00.000-08:00That sounds related to advice in my favorite book ...That sounds related to advice in my favorite book on raising children, "How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk." One section suggests offering a child two alternatives (that are acceptable to <I>you</I>, the <I>parent</I>) and then following through. "Would you rather do your math homework first, or your history homework?" "Let's clean the house together. Would you rather dust the living room or sweep the kitchen?" That sort of thing. Great book, I highly recommend it. <BR/><BR/>Another great strategy from that book is to show that you understand how a child feels: "I imagine you're disappointed that you can't go outside to play in the rain"; "It must be frustrating..."; "I can see that you're angry about..."; etc.. Not only are you giving a label to feelings that a young child may not know a word for, you are showing that what they think is important, even if you can't indulge their whims at the moment.Bridget Magnushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05048808659359979258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30396930.post-66272125595521583052007-08-23T11:48:00.000-08:002007-08-23T11:48:00.000-08:00Dang..I wish I had access to your wisdom when I ra...Dang..I wish I had access to your wisdom when I raised my son. I did seek help when he would get out of control..and learned how to quell his outbursts by sitting on him until he calmed down..<BR/><BR/>Well, it was more like straddling him..while I didn't pay attention to his screaming..I read a book or watched what was on tv. <BR/><BR/>I only had to do that a couple of times..then I would just quietly ask him if he needed a 'take down' as I called it..and he would calm down immediately.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06698117410778232102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30396930.post-31086813053250128212007-08-23T08:21:00.000-08:002007-08-23T08:21:00.000-08:00I wish I had had your insight when mine were growi...I wish I had had your insight when mine were growing up.<BR/><BR/>I do have a house rule for my grandchildren <BR/>"You get it out--you put it up"<BR/><BR/>Works most of the time with prodding.Chancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17888087428059834691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30396930.post-72027367016695756432007-08-23T07:43:00.000-08:002007-08-23T07:43:00.000-08:00I think I shall go down to my libary and hunt that...I think I shall go down to my libary and hunt that book down!Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11604097511444010759noreply@blogger.com