Monday, July 03, 2006


I am the content moderator for an on-line support group of women who, having recognized that we are not among the 2% for whom diets work (take it off and don't return it with interest), have given up diets and decided to get on with our lives and put all of that energy we were wasting on non-productive yet painful self-absorption into other things.

Today we have been talking about control. One of our dear members is having horrible diet thoughts and she knows it is because with a diet she could control at least her food and her husband is dying and she needs to control something. And there is nothing in the world that I can say to make it better. And cyber hugs don't cut it in a situation like this. Hell, real hugs don't cut it in a situation like this, but at least they help.

People are not meant to bear these burdens alone. And I wonder if my friend in cyberspace has anyone in her life like the members of the Saturday Morning Breakfast Club? How I hope that she does. How I hope that you do.


Gina said...

My grandparents have a Lunch Bunch with whom they meet up with every month, as they are all kind of scattered around. Unfortunately, the Lunch Bunch is now down to only about 6 people, from over 15.

But friends are so important, especially in rough times. I hope your friend has someone she can lean on.

J said...

Ugh. I also hope she's not alone.

Of all of the books I've ever read about anorexia, control over the body, because of a lack of control elsewhere, seems to be a pretty big motivato

Mary Lou said...

My sister has her church group and her support group at AA. I dont have anyone, and I know how hard it is to be alone.

I too am one that gave up on dieting, yo-yoed all my life, and now that I turned 60, I said screw it! I am me.

Maya's Granny said...

Mary Lou,
Come to and see if Overcoming Overeating is a group you would like to hang out with.

Tabor said...

Food glorious food. Can't live with it and can't live without it.